Have you ever had a slight disagreement with your spouse?
Do you go to that place easily?
Or is it a rare occasion?
As you can tell by the title I have the address to such a place.
My husband is the oldest of 5. I tell you that to explain him.
I don’t know about all you other “alpha” children out there but you guys are bullies! LOL
And being the youngest of 2 I know how to hold my own too!
There is a lot of ammo when you have 7 kids, home schooling, money shortages, dinner choices! I mean the matches to start such fires are endless.
But you know what winning the fight gets you?
With men a few moments of satisfaction. With God, nothing unless He was the one who brought about the TRUE victory.
So let see how we can obtain a victory in the battle of marriage…
Rules of a fair “fight” DING DING
1.Each decide to meet the other in the middle. As you would in a boxing ring come to the place where you two can agree to at least talk about it.
2.NO hitting below the belt. Do NOT display your deepest dislikes about your spouse to them when you are angry. Try to refrain from foolish talk and stick to the issue at hand.
3.Don’t leave the ring (house) angry. I’m a runner from issues and I tend to want to flee a situation. in the video below, there is a line that says “if we try to leave, may God send angels to guard the door”
4.Never go to your corners (bed) angry. This one is SUPER hard for me. Cause if I can’t leave I will go to sleep! LOL It to me is the only logical way to keep my mouth shut!
5.No elbows to the head (mental warfare) some of you may need to take this one literally. I wish I had a nickle for every time I wanted my husband to think I was right. Manipulation, crying shoot even lying can get you a victory! But it’s CHEATING!
6.Whatever way you can please each other. Please do as much as you are physically able too. I heard it said that some men think about s** as much as we do food! In my book that is a lot!
7.Last but not least Forgive. Respect and Repent.
The best way to win a fight is to let the One who showed you grace. Give you the power to shower your loved one with that grace!
We saw Warren Barfield in person not to long ago (Thanks Ronda and Tony) and it was a blessing! He wrote this song after a fight with his wife. Please take a moment to hear these words. click this Love is not a fight to see You tube video